Friday, October 19, 2007

Second Chance

Have you ever got the feeling that you deserve another chance to do something better/ right? I used to get that feeling after every exam!! Jokes apart, there is this relative of mine, very affectionate but very demanding. In the past, everytime we visited/called, we have had to be on the defencive for something or the other. It was due to her insecurites, I used to reason. I heard that she is now a drastically changed person! Infact, I found out for myself when I called and talked to her recently. The most surprising thing in this is not that the lady is remorseful of her actions but that she is lucky to have got that second chance to mend fences with the people!

And btw, we are getting a second chance in parenting! Yes, the second one is expected to be a new year release!! Talking of parenting, it is a never ending lesson! I learn new/different things from every family. This recent scenerio is one:

Guests arrive. Host and guest's kids go wild after seeing each other. They hyper-actively run around, play/throw ball etc. Guest kid hits the ball and brakes a photo frame. Guest Dad admonishes kid for the act. Guest Mom comes in defense of kid and admonishes Dad for not cautioning the kid before! Host Dad and Mom don't know how to react!! On second thoughts, the Guest Mom seems right in the sense that it was the elders' fault that they didn't stop the kids from playing inside. Then, did it shock because the guest Dad is related to me? Or does it sting me for the numerous times my daughter gets admonished by us in other's houses for little things?

13 comments:

Me said...

congratulations!!!

Deepa said...

Congratulations. Great news. New Year release means you are well in the second trimester. Hope things are going smoothly. Good Luck.

mitr_bayarea said...

Aparna,

Congratulations on the new year arrival. Although, God gives us a second chance, many times, we hardly make use of it for a positive cause.

kuttichuvaru said...

vaazhthukkal :-)

Munimma said...

Goody! Congratulations!
Hope you had a smooth one so far and everything goes well!
Do you feel that you have less patience the second time around?

I seriously think that when one parent is admonishing, the other one should not side with the kid, whatever their feelings on that.

Me too said...

me & kc, thanks!

deepa & munimma, thanks! Compared to the first one, it has been anything but smooth!!

mitr, thanks! That's what I meant by mentioning about exams! But sometimes once missed, the opportunity never comes knocking again.

munimma, less patience the second time around-a? Patience has almost disappeared from my dictionary(it had been on a steady decline since becoming Mrs.!!)

The Talkative Man said...

congrats on the 2nd arrival. A formidable responsibility indeed!!

Playing Match referee to kids' fights - a thankless task :(

The Pranaamam song is here and here's a song from koodevide is here.

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Me too said...

ttm, thanks(for the songs too)!
It's already haunting me of the times my mother had to play referee to us and all time getting blamed for being biased.

Raju said...

Hey Congratulations!!

Triple-A family soon to become Quartet-a? Vaazhthukkal..

Bala (Karthik) said...

vaazthukkal Aparna!

I said...

kalakrel pongo. vaazhthukkal.

Me too said...

raju, thanks! Aaaa, adhey dhaan!!

b(k), nandri, sagaa!

i, nandri, I-ya! Ponnellaam paarthinga? 2008-leye kalyanam vecha, sorry enakku varamudiyadhu!!