Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Over-u?

I have always been(so far!) lucky to be surrounded by like-minded people. Like-minded in the sense that if I grumbled about things, they would join in too(like if I started 'my college principal is so bad' good friends would say, 'oh, mine is worsht' or to my 'oora idhu' my great friends would go 'aiye! padu mattam') and all was well! But a recent acquaintance turned up to be this (over?)confident/ positive(all the time) person! For all my complaints she offered some positive perspective with a regular bonus of how lucky and great things have been for her making me bury my head in shame.

This kind of attitude was puzzlling to me as I have always been surrounded by epitomes of 'அடக்கம்(modesty)'. Even if a person was confident of scoring 100% in the exam, he/she was a good soul only if he/she said "ஏதோ எழுதியிருக்கேன்'(edho ezhudhi irukken)"! Even in movies if the Hero runs 'ஆத்தா, நா pass ஆயிட்டேன்' then that means 'ஆத்தா' role is over!! Yes, the use of superlative adjectives by the locals for even simple deeds surprised me in the beginning.

Then, recently I found out that my 'half-full' friend cleverly & conveniently covers up bad patches and just brags about things. Though the idea of being positive, encouraging others seems nice, her dishonesty now makes me doubt her every word. Also, the attitude of patting one's own back for their good luck when talking about other's misfortune irks me. Oh, how I miss you fellow brooders!!!!

11 comments:

Me said...

..avanga positive thinkingum vaaila alwavum nu yedhachum booku vaangi padichirupaanga....;)

Balaji said...

"Oh, how I miss you fellow brooders!!!!" - lol, nicely put... even if we knew those fellow brooders were just being nice to us, it still made us feel better :) and the "edho ezhudhiyirukken" example was perfect!

Raju said...

I preferred "nalla ezhudhiyirukkenn" guys to "edho ezhudhiyirukken", bcos, modesty is having low-profile AFTER the success, rather than before. e.g., if someone says "edho padichenn, eppadiyo 100% vangittenn", when asked, that is modesty to me (since it is practical).

I am generally a positive-minded person.. true, the downside is the 'cover-up' of bad patches (which sometimes happen too often for one's own comfort), which such a positive person would definitely look forward to minimize in the future. My policy is "no use crying over spilt milk", but be careful with the milk next time.. I think your friend is selectively positive, according to her convenience.

Me too said...

me, ROTFL!!!

balaji, adhey dhaan!

raju, I am not proud being the pessimist that I am. Infact, I realised how annoying my non-stop complaining is after this experience.

SKM said...

ROTFL @ ME's comment.ivarukku nu varthaigal kidaikudhae.:D

@MeToo:
positive comments ku ivvalo aluppa irukkum nu enakku ippodhan theriyudhu.:D

Syam said...

kalakkal Me... :-)

enaku ennamo andha book avanga thaan eluthi irupaanganu thonuthu :-)

Bala (Karthik) said...

Pessimism vaazhga!

Me too said...

skm, it is not sincere/genuine. That's why.

syam, super!!

b(k), vaalga! vaalga!!

Deepa said...

indha maari people naanum paathrukken. Most of the times they turn out to be artificial personalities.

Oracle said...

cant agree with u more on this....

when i face these kinda guys...i tell them life aint appraisal forms..and you can stop making it sound so!

Me too said...

oracle, welcome and thanks for the comments! It took me quite a while to realise that!