Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Vidhiya? Sadhiya?

She was a widow with two children, both of them girls. Her husband had died in an accident and she got her husband's job on compassionate grounds. So, food, shelter, clothing, education and other basic needs were taken care of. The major problem was their health condition. All three often had epileptic seizures. One of them would be hospitalised almost every month. But inspite of all this, they were always positive about the future. They would never complain, blame anyone, even raise their voice. Both the girls had artistic inclination excelling in Kolam(rangoli), sketches, hand work etc. They even did graduation through distant learning programs.

Like all mothers, She too wanted her daughters to be happily married. Everyone in the family were overjoyed when they found a groom from a good family. She did not hide her daughter's medical problems and the groom's family seemed understanding. They did not demand much, not even a grand wedding! She was extremely relieved to have done half her duties now that the eldest daughter was married. Everyone else in the family too felt happy for her. But 'man proposes, God disposes'! She was shattered when her eldest daughter came back home complaining of terrible abuses! More shocking was the news of the groom's mental condition. He was normal most of the times but suffered from violent mood swings at times. Now the groom's family accepted that the groom had mental problems and had been advised that he would be cured after marriage!!!

The Elders in the family talked and decided that the groom would seek medical help and on getting cured would be reunited with his wife. The daughter was adamant about not going back to him but nobody listened. Amidst all these distressing events, She got one of those epileptic attacks which had been on bay for sometime. Again, back to the days of hospitals, medicines etc. Then came the devastating news of her elder daughter's suicide!

This is not fiction. This is a glimpse of the life of a relative of mine. Today is her daughter's 3rd death anniversary. I am a compassionate person but not a strong person. Even when I met her a few years back, all I could do was shed tears. Helplessness is a horrible feeling!

8 comments:

Raju said...

Very sad to know of the tragedy. The groom's family should have told the girl's family of their son's mental problems.. Idhukku mele enna solradhunnu theriyale.. Hope atleast her younger daughter leads a good life..

:: The Protector :: said...

thats really very sad.

i think its a mere coincendence me posted similar one

tt_giant said...

Very sorry to hear. Your relative has underwent so many terrible incidents indeed. Parents witnessing their child's death is the worst of all. I have no words of consolation. I just hope that thigs would be better now.

Me too said...

Raju, sadly, these incidents make me jumpy when the groom's family is extra nice.

Vishnu, inconsolable!

Deepak, we too have been hoping so for a very long time!

Manoj said...

That was a sick thing to share. Well, what happened to them after that anyway? Did the other girl get married? They lived happily ever after?

Say something :((
:``((

Me too said...

Manoj, unfortunately, this is real life. This is the juncture they are in right now.

NaiKutti said...

sorry stories!... when the girl's family didn't want to hide anything, why did the guy's family hide the natural behaviour... well, thats the way life is... hope the the other daughter and her mom have a peaceful life ahead...

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